Clarksville, TN – First of all, stop what you are doing, open the calendar app on your phone and mark May 12th as Mother’s Day. If you are a real go-getter, mark May 7th as “Get ready for Mother’s Day.”
Mother’s Day is a big day. It’s a day loaded with emotion for a lot of people. It means different things to different people. On the surface, we are all just supposed to pat our moms on the back for birthing us, but for many people (just like on any holiday), Mother’s Day can be a time of sadness.
God commands us to look after the orphaned and widowed. I also believe that means the single mom, the imprisoned mom, or the mom who has experienced great loss.
I want to encourage you (and me!) to make a list of people who could use a little extra love on Mother’s Day.
Here’s a short list that I have put together:
- YOUR mom – She dealt with you right? Kidding of course, but reach out to her. Tell her how much she really means to you.
- Other female relatives – You can’t go wrong by recognizing grandma, aunts, sisters and other great women in your life.
- Single moms – I was one for several years. Kids don’t magically shop for their moms or have a calendar app. Teachers are pretty good about having the kids make a cute project, but it’s nice to be thought of on purpose.
- Incarcerated moms – Some moms will spend Mother’s Day without their children at all because they are behind bars. Yes, they may deserve their sentence, but they are still moms and the pain of separation they feel will be heightened for a week or two (they have a lot more time to think!)
- Moms who have lost a child – This is such a tough day for them, as all holidays are. You can’t love them too much on Mother’s Day.
- Women with fertility problems – For those who are struggling to conceive, or who have experienced the pain of miscarriage, this is a painful reminder of what they don’t have. Two years ago, I had a miscarriage the week of Mother’s Day. Not another one will pass without me remembering that and feeling some of the loss again.
- Moms with deployed husbands – Parenting alone is hard! Celebrating days that are supposed to be about you, without anyone to celebrate you, is difficult.
- Deployed moms – I can’t imagine what it’s like to be on another continent, Skyping with my kids instead of snuggling them.
While this list is not all-inclusive, it is intended to help us think about those who could use a little extra love on Mother’s Day.
Consider these options for showing your support:
- Send a card. If a Mother’s Day card seems inappropriate for whatever reason, send a “thinking of you card” or something to make them laugh.
- Call her
- Take her to dinner
- Get her a bouquet of flowers or a gift card for the spa
- Wash her car or take it for an oil change
- Watch her kids for a few hours that week to give them a little alone time
- Mow her yard or plant a flowering bush or tree
- Or simply say, “I love you, you are a good mom, I am glad you are in my life.”
Whatever Mother’s Day means to you, I pray that it will be a peaceful and enjoyable one for you. Happy Mother’s Day!